Denise Duffield-Thomas

How to Quickly Manifest the Money for a Conference or Personal Development Event Without Going into Credit Card Debt

There are always so many inspiring events and conferences I want to go to - and those things can quickly add up, right? One of my dreams is to be able to attend any personal development I want (travelling First Class of course) without ever worrying about the money.

Are you the same?

 

The thing is - the extra cash to go to events as well as flights, accommodation and cocktail money is rarely hanging around. So you usually have to create the money out of thin air!

I've done this when I wanted to go to conferences in Vegas, New York, Dallas and Tuscon and it ALWAYS works. I've won the money, been given tickets out of the blue, had unexpected tax refunds and came up with creative ideas to earn it.

But I've always used the same practical process.

So, if you've got an event you've been pining to attend, follow these steps and you'll be there, I promise!

Ladies, Can We Talk Honestly About Weight + Money?

I've had an incredible realisation recently about how intertwined money and weight are for women. My money mentor Kendall Summerhawk said recently, How you do money is how you do everything and I thought, ok - if that's true, how does my money situation relate to how I am about food?

Holy shizzle.

So many parallels, it's hard to keep up:

I always over-ate at buffets, anxious to get my "money's worth", went through feast and famine cycles where I either ate pure green raw food or complete and utter rubbish. I stuffed in food for a variety of reasons - because I was bored, tired, sad, mad or otherwise "off".

I always had to eat everything on my plate and ate and ate... and ate without feeling satisfied. I felt so jealous of friends who could eat whatever they wanted, didn't overeat and had great bodies. I wish I could undo all the crappy food I'd eaten in the past and have it's effect on my body instantly wiped out. I felt like a healthy relationship to food or my weight eluded me.

and in money....

I got into debt because I spent money I didn't have, feeling anxious about getting my "money's worth" when buying things, had present anxiety (buying for other people), had feast or famine cycles where I earned money and then spent it just as quickly. I bought random things because I was bored, tired, sad, mad or otherwise "off".

I was never comfortable with having money in my bank account, because I felt like I had to make up for lost time (when I didn't have any), but spending it wasn't satisfying either. I felt jealous of friends who earned great money in their jobs and could spend it with ease on nice things. I wish I could undo all the times I spent money but didn't enjoy it and have my debts instantly wiped out. I felt like being rich (or even just earning a "decent wage") eluded me.

Deep down, I thought I could only be rich when I was skinny.
Otherwise I didn't deserve it.

My food issues were clear to see on my butt, but my money issues were somewhat hidden. Just having these realisations shone a light and I gave myself permission to overcome both at the same time.

After all, if one shifted, the other might too, right?

I decided to forgive myself for my actions around both food and money. I cleared my past. I decided that I am enough. I realised that there is always more when I need it. I did a shit-load of transformational work around myself....

And the results have been incredible.

Why I Asked My Husband For "Pocket Money" While I Built My Business

An entrepreneurial confession

My journey to be a full-time entrepreneur was a rocky one. Many times over the last decade, I experimented with random businesses and jumped in and out of corporate life in search of the freedom and creativity I wanted.

As an independent woman, determined to be equal in every way to my husband Mark, we more or less earned the same and split all expenses down the middle.

However, I was miserable in corporate life and while Mark loved his job - I couldn't wait to get out of mine, but it was stressful making no money from my business and we couldn't afford to live on one salary.

So I sucked it up, but the frustration made me crabby. The first time I quit my job, I had no idea what business I should do, but I thought the freedom from my job would motivate me.

Big mistake.

The Worst Thing I've Done For Money

Ok, not that

.. and I've never killed anyone either.

But I've done some pretty terrible jobs in my life; cleaning offices, washing up dishes in a seafood restaurant, phone sex and taking my clothes off for money (but it was an art class.. so it's ok).

I'm not alone in my crappy job history - I asked for contributions and I got inundated with responses, like:

• Pulling weeds in an oil refinery
• Selling acid tabs to fund running away from home
• Lots of telemarketing jobs
• Credit card collecting
• Playing a gorilla in a children's opera
• Working at McDonald's and going home smelling like McNuggets

Pretty much everyone has to do crappy jobs at some point in their life; teenagers and college students have to take what they can get and it's true... it's character building! My teenage brother just started his first job in a kebab shop and he's thrilled to be earning money for the first time!

But sometimes you're not a kid anymore and you do something that makes you feel like shit:

What Money Message Are You Sending to the Universe?

From Lucky Bitch, by Denise Duffield-Thomas

Years ago, I had many problems in accepting money. My income had stagnated at a certain level and I just could not break free. God it was frustrating. I didn't get it - I'm smart. I was good at my jobs. But my salary was the same (and actually went down) for years.

Although I went to many seminars about developing a millionaire mindset, in reality, I felt guilty spending even the smallest scrap of money on myself.

I only shopped at second hand shops, so my clothes always felt ill-fitted. I treated myself like a second class citizen. I read books about millionaires and dreamed about having a lot of money but I lived like a pauper. The message I was sending out was “I don’t deserve”. And that’s exactly what I got in return.

 

A lucky windfall won’t necessarily solve your money problems

I dreamed about winning the lottery or getting some massive windfall, like an unknown wealthy relative leaving me a house or lots of money.

Lottery winners don’t have their problems solved overnight by their unexpected windfall because money doesn’t change you, in only enhances who you already are. If you fundamentally believe that being rich makes you a bad person, or if you think that it will solve all of your problems it doesn’t matter how much money you get.

According to NSW Lotteries, the odds of choosing all 6 winning numbers is approximately 8,145,060 to one, but here are some interesting statistics for you. Camelot Group who operate the UK lottery released a survey of their national lottery winners to show what affect winning the lottery had on their overall happiness and lifestyle.